One common theme I have seen with former AAs is that there is often a moment of clarity when they finally agree with that voice in their head that something was amiss, and that the program that they had signed up for – a quit drinking fellowship – was indeed much more. Sometimes it is a single incident, like the actions of a sponsor, or something said by another member that was particularly absurd, that gave their head a shake. With others, it was simply the totality of it all, and they knew that if they were subjected to one more aphorism, or one more trite slogan, they felt like their heads might explode.

What was your moment? When did you finally have enough? Was it a particular event, or was it a process. I would be interested to hear from those who have left AA. A reverse drunkalog, if you will. What caused you leave, and what difference has it made for you.

[This thread was published by MA on March 16, 2010. The stories that people have posted in the comments shouldn’t be buried, so we’re making this a permanent page. Please go read the comments on the original thread, and if you’re inspired, post your story here or in the original thread.]

2 Responses to “Why I Left AA: Stinkin Thinkin Stories”

  1. Michael Says:

    After reading Orange Papers for several months, I refused to believe the “hyperbole”. I thought Orange was missing the point. I was still convinced that 12 Steps, no matter what the controversy, offers a path to wholeness. Then, after 2-3 years of marriage issues, to include tons of verbal abuse, my sig other threw in the towel to Al-Anon to get help/support dealing with issues stemming from her Mom. She was followed out to her car alone, on 2-3 occasions by same perpetrator. I went to an Al-Anon meeting to confront this man. I told him what he had been doing. In all empathy, he was in a stage of grief because his wife had been on her deathbed. His legs folded to the floor. He did not know what to think, or say. He was so pathetic. At that point I walked from the 12 Stepp rooms forever after 10-12 years as a very vocal (and sometimes disturbing!) member. I haven’t returned in about 4-5 years. I am 20 years sober. About that..I stopped counting. Doesn’t matter. I wasn’t a drunk to begin with, yet AA said there are no accidents. I

  2. Anonymous Says:

    It seems that at least some members of AA have a problem with people who decide to accept Jesus as their Savior?

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